Anger Management Counselling Online & Across Northern Ireland

Feel calmer, communicate clearly, and regain control in your life.

Hi, I’m Kathy, a counsellor and coach at Positive Outcomes For Life. I help adults and young people understand anger, reduce outbursts, and build calmer, more connected relationships. I offer secure online sessions across Northern Ireland and the Republic of Ireland, and I also work with clients in the UK and internationally via video link. If you’re dealing with frequent irritation, explosive arguments, or a short fuse that’s affecting your work or relationships, you’re in the right place.

Who I Help

I support people who:

Feel on edge, snappy, or easily triggered
Have explosive rows that leave guilt and distance in their wake
Bottled things up for too long and then "blow"
Struggle with road rage, workplace frustration, or parenting stress
Want practical tools that work in real life
Prefer the privacy and convenience of online anger management

Whether your anger looks loud and obvious or quiet and simmering, I’ll meet you without judgement. Anger isn’t a character flaw; it’s a signal. Together we’ll decode it and respond differently.

My Approach to Anger Management

I blend evidence-based approaches with a warm, practical style so you leave each session with something you can use the same day. Depending on your goals, I draw from:

CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to map triggers, thoughts, and behaviours, then experiment with new responses.
ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) to help you unhook from unhelpful thoughts and act in line with your values.
Emotion‑Focused and Compassion‑Focused strategies to reduce shame and build emotional literacy.
Mindfulness and somatic (body‑based) tools to lower physiological arousal and recover faster after a trigger.
Assertive communication coaching so you can set boundaries and resolve conflict without losing your cool.

I don’t believe in one‑size‑fits‑all programmes. I tailor our work to your life: your relationships, your job, your stressors, your history — and the version of you that you want to become.

Common Signs Anger Is Asking for Attention

Frequent irritability, sarcasm, or criticism
Explosive arguments or "scenes" followed by guilt
Feeling disrespected and needing to win
Trouble letting things go; replaying arguments in your head
Headaches, tight chest, clenched jaw, or quick heartbeat
Drinking, scrolling, or comfort eating after conflict
Strained relationships at home or work

If you recognise yourself here, you’re not alone. Anger is a normal emotion — it just needs new ways to move through your mind and body.

The Results My Clients Work Toward

Calmer body: you spot early warning signs and regulate faster
Clearer mind: you challenge unhelpful thoughts and choose your response
Stronger relationships: you express needs without attacks or stonewalling
Better decisions: you pause before reacting and keep to your values
Resilience under pressure: you recover quickly after a setback

You don’t have to be perfect or zen. You only need to be willing to practise small changes consistently — and I’ll guide you every step.

My Philosophy: Anger Is a Messenger

I view anger as a protective emotion that shows up when something important feels threatened — boundaries, fairness, dignity, safety, or love. When anger becomes the only voice at the table, it can push people away and create the opposite of what you want. My job is to help you hear the message underneath anger and respond in ways that protect what matters without harming you or your relationships.

The Anger Cycle — and How It Can Be Changed

Most people get caught in a repeating pattern:

Trigger → Fast thoughts → Body surge → Behaviour → Aftermath (guilt, distance, stress) → New trigger

Together we will:

Identify your unique trigger themes (disrespect, control, injustice, feeling trapped, noise/overwhelm)
Spot early physiological cues (heat, jaw tension, pressure in chest, tunnel vision)
Practise regulation tools (paced breathing, grounding, reset routines)
Slow down thinking with CBT and ACT skills
Replace aggressive or passive patterns with assertive communication and boundaries
Repair after conflict and build trust over time

Practical Skills You’ll Learn

3‑step pause: Notice → Name → Navigate (a quick method you can use mid‑trigger)
Physiological "gear shift": evidence‑based breathing and grounding drills you can do in 60–120 seconds
Anger radar: map your top triggers and early signs to catch anger before it peaks
Assertive scripts: how to ask for change without blaming or shaming
Conflict de‑escalation: staying with the issue, not the person; taking time‑outs well
Repair & reconnect: accountability without self‑attack; how to re‑open conversation
Values compass: making choices that align with who you want to be

Tailored Support for Different Contexts

Relationships & Family

I help you move from blame and defensiveness to honest, respectful conversations. We’ll practise phrases that keep dialogue open and reduce the cycle of attack–withdraw.

Parenting

Anger and parenting often collide. We’ll create calm‑down plans that work with real kids in real homes, and build consistent, compassionate boundaries.

Work & Leadership

From micromanagement to email tone, workplace triggers are everywhere. We’ll build professional scripts, feedback skills, and stress buffers so you stay composed under pressure.

Past Hurt & Trauma

If old wounds are fuelling current reactions, we’ll pace the work carefully so you feel safe while we build new patterns.

Men’s & Women’s Anger

Anger can show up differently across genders due to socialisation. I provide a safe space to explore what you were taught about anger and how to write a healthier script.

How Many Sessions Will I Need?

Change begins immediately when you start practising. Many clients notice early wins within 3–6 sessions (better pauses, fewer blow‑ups). For deeper, longer‑term change, 8–12 sessions gives time to explore patterns and practise new habits. Some clients choose monthly maintenance for accountability — we’ll decide together.

Fees & Practicalities

Session length: 50 minutes (online)
Availability: daytime and limited evening appointments
Location: online across Northern Ireland and the Republic of Ireland; I also work with clients across the UK and internationally
Confidentiality: I follow professional ethical guidelines and protect your privacy

If you have questions about fees or packages, please get in touch — I’ll outline options clearly before we begin.

Your Next Step

If you’re ready to try a new way with anger, I’d love to help. Contact me to book a free discovery call and we’ll decide the best starting point together.

You can feel calmer. You can be heard. You can rebuild trust.